(A)sexual (2011)

Could anyone please share a link where I can watch the entire documentary online *for free*? Thank you!

Asexuals have my utmost respect. At least they can see that there's more to life than sex!

I'm asexual & I really want to seem this. I've heard people online talk about their asexuality but I've never seen people talk about it. I want to see others like me.

It's not that I find sex to be completely dis-interesting, I just feel like the cons far outweigh the pros. If I don't have sex for that reason, does that make me A-sexual?

The good thing about being asexual is that you save yourself lots of emotional, physical, and mental problems that come with sex. The bad thing about it is that you feel like an outsider in an oversexualized world. Some asexuals have been victims of corrective rape and many relationships can fail with a sexual person. That's why we want to be recognized so that other people won't be confused, it was terrible feeling lost, it got to the point where I got a bit depressed. But the asexual community took that pain away. Big thanks to David Jay and other great people for spreading the word.

It just baffles my mind that people have issues with who someone else sleeps with, straight or gay, and it baffles my mind even more when people have issues with others who don't feel the need to have sex. GIVE ME A BREAK! *MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!*

Lucky people. They can focus on their career more.

I wish i was A-sexual. I really do.

They should have interviewed Seligman from Nymph()maniac... 2 bad he got shot...

I think it's really sad the sexual people don't even try to understand asexuals... it's confusing and intimidating for someone who is asexual, and it makes it even worse... they should just learn to live with it. I'm asexual too, and I have a really hard time making people understand that, particularly guys, they just say I'm uptight and haven't gotten any good sex.... they just don't really understand the whole point of not wanting or, and not being interested in them... sorry for the right, it's been bugging me for over 10 years, and it's the first time I see a movie about it... it's nice to know there are so many others out there, cheers everyone

another comment...  I LOVE being asexual, but it sucks how many guy friends I lose because of being asexual. Either they're pissed I never "gave them a chance" and quit talking to me, or later when they finally find a girlfriend, they won't talk to me anymore because "it's inappropriate to hang out with a girl you used to like".

Asexual master race reporting in. I hate homosexuals, bisexuals, and other sex-freaks.

Gonna have to check this film out. Because I think it's a very important issue in the LGBT community (along with trans and bisexuals). It's bad enough most straight people don't get that not everyone has the same desires as they do. But Asexuals don't get the same respect as gay people do in the LGBT community. Because it's not a "real sexuality, there's no sex involved".  I really hope this movie will be well portrayed because this kind of discrimination needs to stop. Its been bugging me forever now and I just want people to just accept one another jfc. 

Why is it so hard for people to understand that some people are born without sexual desire for other people? It seems like a perfectly normal, natural variation on the human sexuality spectrum. I think it bothers me most that people think it's going to rub off on them, like cooties. This is a really great film, and it's available on netflix. I watched it last night. 

No sex since 87, Wow talk about dry spell. Why do white people have to announce every sexual preference they are in?

I'm asexual, guys don't understand that ever, no matter how many times I try to explain it...Guys are always  like... "why don't you just try and give me a chance? it isn't fair, all I'm asking for is a chance..." Well, is it fair to me to be involved in something I'm not comfortable with? They always think that they can be the one that's going to change it, somehow they'll be different. Well... no.

To the people who say what's the big deal, so you don't want to have sex, it's nothing like being homosexual etc etc.. think of this way. To be asexual in a sex driven culture is no easy feat. You either force yourself to like something you don't and that doesn't feel right to you, or have to always distance yourself from possible relationships- in addition to being called a freak of nature. You either try and fit in, or try to accept and be at peace with yourself and what you're feeling. You try and tell yourself you're okay while you're constantly being told your sexual orientation, or lack of desire, is 'abnormal.' Basically, the way society has defined it, you have to accept that you may never be able to be in a happy, long term relationship. Accepting this likely possibility is what an asexual lives with everyday. This story sounds similar to those who've had to stand up for their right to be sexually attracted to the same sex, to be recognised as male/female, etc. In this case, the battle is to denounce the importance of sex altogether for some people, to see 'non-sexual' love as an legitimate form of bonding and attraction with a partner without the need for sex, which believe me, is no easy feat in today's sex driven culture. In this society, the dominant answer to who wants to marry or be with someone who doesn't want to have sex with them? Is pretty much no-one. So that leaves the asexual, still with the same desires for love and connection, not being able to be in a relationship, because sex has been made out to be so important. Asexuals are made to feel 'broken' under the weight of societal expectation. Other reasons understanding asexuality is important: Knowing that there are different types of love, and that sex does not have to define a meaningful relationship can redefine societies overemphasis on sex, shedding more light on the equally important non-sexual/emotional aspects. Understanding asexuality can also help sexually interested and sexually non-interested people trying out a relationship know and understand eachother better. Overall I think seeing Asexuality as a legitimate orientation is important so people can accept and be okay with who they are and what they feel, whether they fit into the dominant societal mold or not. The Asexual voice is real and needs to be heard, just like the sexual prejudices in society that have come before it. (Though I suspect it has existed long before its label.)

Is there a way to become asexual without cutting my balls off and making myself infertile? 

I have a weird situation dealing with me and I always knew I was different, but I started to notice after I had sex for the first time. I'n the past I had crushes on guys, but I never wanted to have sex with them. When I said the word "cute" I only meant I enjoy looking at him like a painting, art, or sunset. Never for sex. But the weird part is that I've only had sexual feelings and romantic feelings toward one guy in my whole life. Once I had sex, I never once felt pleasure, just a feeling. I felt the penis go in and out and nothing more, I've had guys eat me out, still nothing. I can't tell ya how many three ways I've had, and still nothing. I can orgasm while playing with myself but the only way I can get off is by thinking about the one guy I had sexual/romantic feelings for. I have no desire to be in a relationship unless its the guy I'm attracted to. I can count how many crushes I've had on one hand and it still wouldn't take all my fingers. People have told me I'm good at sex and am a good lover but ya see, my secret is I'm putting on a big act, so I must be one hell of a actress. With my lovers I never get aroused, I always make sure I have two things with me before I have sex. That is lube because since I never get turned on, it will be easier for the guys to do their thing and a lot of the times I think they get the lube mixed up, thinking I'm wet when I'm not. and alcohol because I can only go through with it while being somewhat drunk, and I'm just hoping the guys will hurry up and finish and get it over with. I do have fun with them even though I don't enjoy sex like they do. I love all of them because they are nice guys. I've had crushes after I started having feelings toward that one guy but never in the same extent like how it was with him. I've had feelings for him since I was 11. Now I'm 23. My other crushes only lasted a year but I'n my head I still wanted to be with my first love. Most 23 year old females have had lots of crushes and have kids by now and got married. I think I'm somewhere in between sexual and asexual because every other guy I'm asexual/aromantic, but to this one guy I do have major sexual/romantic feelings about him and I know If I had sex with him I could orgasm because he's the only way I can orgasm and I'd feel somewhat normal when it comes to sex and relationships, but the sad part with that is he don't know who I am, he doesn't know I exist. I've loved this man since I was 11. I'm so confused, I feel as if I'm crazy as a loon. I know I have some part of being some type of asexual but I cant figure it out yet. I asked a person on Aven and she said I seem like I'm either gray a or demi, but more towards demi because I have an emotional attachment to this guy even though it don't work both ways. I have accepted that I will be alone for the rest of my life and I try to deal with it the best I know how. I was never raped or abused.  What do you guys think? Please don't judge me or put me down,I'm confused enough as it is, I'm looking for answers. It seems Youtube has a lot of people on the comments who judge and try and argue with people and thats not what I'm about, just trying to understand myself. 

It's interesting to see how they experience prejudice and ridicule from so many people. Especially when it's from groups who were in the same kind of position in society not too long ago. - The conclusion about David surprised me